I’ll never forget the moment we fell in love – half of Daniel’s face melted into the pillow, his eyes opened lazily. I remember tracing the outline of his lips as they curved into a smile. His eyes were soft and brown and warm, and we were warm, and so my heart grew warm as we lay there, nestled under the white duvet hidden from the world. Every now and then one of us would move, yet the gentle shift of the bedclothes would run its way around our bodies and settle perfectly underneath us. I felt safe, at home, finally, and when I looked into his eyes I could see a home for him and a home for me, somewhere, anywhere, maybe just not here. And why is that? Because here is a place where the dominant hierarchy decide for us. They decide whether our love is love, they decide whether we can make our house a home because this is not a marriage that society deems acceptable. This is a marriage between two men.
People say, “we are all equal.” To what extend do we mean this? Can somebody please tell me why choices such as the choices listed above are taken from individuals?
I think it is absolutely pathetic to think that people are still living in the twentieth century, oppressing people who contribute to our society, who abide by our laws, and who have only one motive and that is to live happily as many of us long for. When you are a teenager and people ask, “where do you see yourself in twenty years time?” The answer is usually married, happy, successful – maybe even have their own children, but for some reason people try to steal that from others. For those that clutch your beads and recite your verses, save your breath. I can argue that you are indeed breaking a commandment too, by stealing from your neighbour, you’re stealing their rights, by dishing out your wrongs, and I think it’s by time now to stand up for those who are being oppressed. In 2015 it has been agreed by Government to hold a referendum on civil marriage for same sex couples in Ireland. I really can’t stress how important it is that we win this referendum so that people don’t have to be undermined when they have to ask for permission to marry a person of their choice. Civil marriages between same sex couples have been ongoing in Ireland for some time now, but these marriages are completely secular. I choose to vote yes when that time comes, simply because it’s none of my business as to how others lead their lives. I almost feel uncomfortable thinking that I even have to vote for equality in this day and age. It should be naturally understood that freedom should be something a human being can avail of without forever being the inferior on periphery of society, waiting to granted something that shouldn’t even need decision or questioning. How can we morally presume we have the right to intrude and smother those who merely want to spend their lives together? Yes, their lives. Not your life.
Being gay, the last time I thought about it, seemed to have nothing to do with the ability to balance a check book, fix a broken bone or change a spark plug
~ Bill Clinton
Love is love. You fall in love with someone’s person, not their gender. It is not limited by gender. For those who have fallen in love, many will claim if asked that ‘it just happened’. It wasn’t thought about in extremity, it wasn’t anticipated. Isn’t that the beauty of love? The fluidity and power of love that we are all capable of feeling, that just happens to us without our awareness, that is so natural it is our own being. And so why do we continue to deprive people of being?